Red pills on relationships with Stephen Paul Edwards, author of "Venus Fly Trap"

There's a trite piece of advice that every man has heard a thousand times, and is bored of hearing: Choose a woman for her character, NOT her beauty.

This old bromide applies, of course, generally to everyone in choosing a romantic partner, but men in particular ignore it.
And I won't repeat that advice.
I contend that the savvy seducer can get both virtue and beauty in one package.
That's what I did, and I wrote a 500-page book about how to make that magic happen.
How to seduce the enduring affections, passion, and commitment of a virtuous woman; a philosophy that resulted in a happy seven-year marriage and a beautiful baby that she is singing to in the other room while I write this very sentence.
Recently, I finished a book that makes an almost comically perfect companion to mine: Venus Fly Trap — the memoir of a man who seduced the enduring affections of a succubus from the ninth circle of hell.
I’m speaking metaphorically. Just barely.

Venus Fly Trap is a rather spicy memoir detailing the author’s turbulent and deeply self-destructive relationship with a former model who appears hell-bent on infusing chaos into the life of anyone within her near vicinity. It’s a story of attraction to anarchy, of confusing intensity with intimacy, and of repeatedly mistaking volatility for progress.

What makes the book interesting — and why I’d recommend it as a strange but useful companion to my own work — is its honesty. The author doesn’t merely document her instability; he documents his own failures. The boundaries he didn’t enforce. The red flags he sped right past in a not-so-metaphorical Rolls-Royce. The bad game that lost him "frame control" over the relationship. The mindset errors that earned him exactly the force of chaos he invited into his life, bed, and beautiful home.

I'm joined today by Stephen Paul Edwards, who has a PhD in Spiritual Counseling and 20+ years working alongside leaders like Anthony Robbins, Robert Kiyosaki, and Dean Graziosi. Stephen brings an experiential lens to personal growth (along with some good storytelling, I hope on this podcast). And he's the author of Venus Fly Trap.

Mentioned in this interview

My book: Don't Stick Your Dick in a Blender: How to meet a nice girl instead - from a tantric husband with a better sex life than you!

Don't Stick Your Dick in a Blender

 

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Study the art of seduction or "game" - Real Social Dynamics content is a good place to start, as is my seduction content, then find wingmen to practice daygame and nightgame with

The TRUTH about Dating and Marrying Exotic Foreign Women - Is it for you?

Geographic regulation of the sexual marketplace - THIS is history

Negotiating addendum agreements in relationships works better than compromise

The “Bad Boy” Syndrome -  chapter from a book my wife started writing, entitled “I Don’t Need A Man!” — And other myths robbing you of true love

Abundance mindset - you don't need to be a player to have an abundance mindset; it can be hacked with epigenetic transformation meditation

You Are the Placebo

 

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Time Line Therapy - Tad James utilizes NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) to eliminate irritating behaviors or issues. The Time Line theory is that you go back to the first time you remember a particular problem, do change work, and if necessary, go to subsequent times when your behavior or response was a problem, and then do additional change work to resolve it. A good addition to any therapist's library or to anyone interested in behavioral change.

How successful men regrettably waste their sexual market value with recreational dating, Tim Ferriss and Stephen are examples of this.

Venus Fly Trap: Download free sample chapters

Or purchase the digital book (only $3) 

Connect with Stephen

On Instagram, YouTube, X, Facebook, TikTok, LinkedIn, or his website: VFT23.com

Coaching and Counseling

Here's a silly Northern Soul (Stephen's favorite genre) song about toxic relationships from the perspective of "Disco"...