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So you're a virgin. That sucks, doesn't it!

Believe me, I understand the frustration of doing everything that you think you should be doing to finally get out of the friend zone, connect with a girl you like, and actually have sex. I have been there and lived with that monotonous frustration of sex eluding me no matter what I tried.

Why you must master your mind, committed man.

There's this misguided romantic notion of a man at war with himself  -  a man who finds himself often in the cratered and barbwire-strewn no man's land between high-minded principles, commitments made, and his impulses and baser drives. Our culture sees fit to elevate these men to great heights  -  think of the latest celebrity or politician to get caught in some sordid affair that totally undermines something they latterly espoused with great certainty to raucous applause.

But, this article is not about the endemic betrayal and duplicity of our leaders and icons  -  it's about risk mitigation in your most important relationship, committed man. It's about choosing the ounce of prevention every day instead of desperately needing a ton of cure one day. It's about making damn sure that you don't get a torpedo shot down your most vulnerable thermal exhaust port. When it comes to your monogamous commitment to your woman, be master and supreme commander of your mind, not an indecisive general manager that allows the bushfires of revolution to spread.

Yes, I've had my dick burned by scalding laser pinpricks over and over again for about 20 minutes...

"Why the hell did you subject yourself to that," you ask. Well, it was a surgery I had to undergo because I forgot something very noble and kingly that I once believed, was sold and lived a lie for about a decade - a lie that you might be really bought into, as I was. Is a laser-powered penis-cauterizing session in your future? That's up to you!

Yes, really.
You've heard that clubs are awful as places to meet women - that you can only meet sluts and party girls - "blenders" - at clubs. And there’s some truth to this stereotype but I met my wife, who was the furthest thing from promiscuous and who is objectively a better wife than any other I’ve ever heard of, at a club. And I'll tell you a little about how we met and what stood out about her, but as you can see I am in a beautiful place - Sozopol on Bulgaria's black sea coast...

This is kind of a special place for me - it's where my now wife and I took our first romantic getaway as a couple 4 years ago. And walking these cobbled streets again inspires me to share some lessons about frame control - which is super important in your relationships. Frame control is worth figuring out, if you're mindful of frame control and get it right from the inception of your relationship with a lady, the reward is tranquility.

2023 Update: I'm proud to report that our sex life is better now after a half-decade of marriage. On a fairly regular basis, we will still have spontaneous sex in the middle of the day just because we feel like it! We got married a little fast, we didn't date for years before marrying. And I really don't regret it, I regard it as the best decision I've ever made.

I got married. I'll explain why I took this very calculated risk...

Thanksgiving (a very special holiday for me) of 2018, I got married. My life has been a (mostly intentional) dance with risk, sometimes a reggaeton-powered bump'n grind, sometimes a rhythmic salsa step. In that adventurous spirit, I'm now embracing something new...

Marriage is risky, especially for men. If you don't know why I'll encourage you to just spend a little time perusing the MGTOW corner of YouTube. I certainly don't completely agree with these guys but there's an abundance of evidence why marriage is very risky, indeed the ultimate risk a modern man can take.

Jonathan and Gergana, they're a husband and wife
Whose advice on love is sound and advice is rife.
They've been together for half a decade or more,
And they've seen it all, from the good to the bad and the sore.

Their advice is always sound,
And never fails to cool
The ardor of the love-sick youth,
And make him see the truth.

But be warned, their advice can be a bit blunt,
So if you're easily offended, you might want to run.
But if you're looking for honest and straight-talking advice,
Then J&G are the ones to go to, no price.

In these webisodes, we dispense tips, tricks, and relationshackingtechniques for those longing for belonging and relationships that are sinking ships...

"My wife is getting fat! What the heck should I do...?" 💔 J&G Relationships Q&A #1

Book Review: Integrate the shadow of your masculinity before it drags you to hell

Lately, I've been listening to a lot of masculinity podcasts. One of them that doesn't suck is ManTalks with Connor Beaton. So I dove into his personal growth book for men, which also doesn't suck! It really lives up to the second word of its subtitle, A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom. The book is about a topic I've long shied away from (for some reason)...

Gents, one of the most pernicious myths about women that I’d like to disabuse you of is that women are just into guys with money.

Few men (or women) will experience, either in intensity or frequency, sex that powerfully infuses the rest of their life with zest and vigor.

I'm a man with significant breadth and depth of sexual experiences, thus this article is mostly for men but I include some biohacks and supplements that I'm confident (either because of scientific research, meaningful anecdotal data, or first-hand experience) will improve a woman's experience of sex. I'm hoping that one-day virtual reality comes up with a way for me to experience sex as a woman, which is a weird thing for a straight male to write, I'm sure it will be an even weirder experience!

The Inevitable Uncondoming…

Single guys, if you implement some (or all) of the sex hacks described here you're going to be having some very hot, passionate sex which tends to lead to unprotected sex. In my new book, Don’t Stick Your Dick in a Blender, I have a chapter, The Inevitable Uncondoming (which you can download here for free and read at your leisure), all about unprotected sex. Please, don’t underestimate how easy it is to royally screw up your life by inviting the wrong kinds of women into your bed. Good, yet naive, men routinely wreck their lives because they “stick their dick in a blender” — having sex with the wrong kinds of women. STDs, unplanned pregnancies, false accusations, mental health headcases, and divorce make chasing skirts a dangerous game. This book delves deeply into advanced social dynamics strategies and lifehacks for meeting and seducing a woman worthy of your uncondomed cock.

Book Review: Why you shouldn't tell her "You're beautiful!" every day 

We all know that you need to make an ongoing effort to keep the romantic flame alive in a relationship, that's why you tell your woman "You're beautiful!" on the regular, right? "Open Her" by Karen Brody explains why this quotidian romantic overture falls far short of making your lady feel seen, loved, and desired. The author is sort of like a female Roosh V (a comparison I'm sure she would just love). She tasted the rainbow of masculinity and defines seven masculine archetypes in this book - which isn't really "red-pilled", feminist, or anti-feminist. This book and its unique insights on men and women don't really fit into one of our modern culture war camps. My witty and pretty wife and I read this one together, and share takeaways in this podcast...