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There's a trite piece of advice that every man has heard a thousand times, and is bored of hearing: Choose a woman for her character, NOT her beauty.

This old bromide applies, of course, generally to everyone in choosing a romantic partner, but men in particular ignore it.
And I won't repeat that advice.
I contend that the savvy seducer can get both virtue and beauty in one package.
That's what I did, and I wrote a 500-page book about how to make that magic happen.
How to seduce the enduring affections, passion, and commitment of a virtuous woman; a philosophy that resulted in a happy seven-year marriage and a beautiful baby that she is singing to in the other room while I write this very sentence.
Recently, I finished a book that makes an almost comically perfect companion to mine: Venus Fly Trap — the memoir of a man who seduced the enduring affections of a succubus from the ninth circle of hell.
I’m speaking metaphorically. Just barely.

A witty and in-depth discussion with my beautiful Bulgarian wife about Western men dating abroad, seeking asylum from modernity with the unashamedly feminine women that can be found in Medellin, Colombia, Odessa, Ukraine, or Sofia, Bulgaria--where I filmed this clip pretending to daygame her and her little dog...

Gents, many of the women you meet will proudly proclaim on first dates or on their online dating profiles to be: “Spiritual but not religious.”

It’s a very modern, cosmopolitan, mainstream thing to think about oneself that I wouldn’t regard as a major red flag of a “blender” — a woman that you should avoid getting involved with. But I draw a distinction between genuinely religious women and “spiritual” women. Organized religion and church attendance imbue some concrete morality, humility, self-control, and fear of the metaphysical consequences of sin, whereas a lot of Eastern and new age spiritual dalliances are merely dressed-up navel-gazing.

So you score a date with a hottie, and she actually shows up, you get drinks or coffee together at a cafe. But you struggle to find anything really stimulating to discuss. You’re a bit nervous and run out of things to say. There are awkward silences. You lose her attention as she begins playing on her smartphone. After about an hour, she says, “Well, I’ve got something to do. Nice to meet you [fake smile].”
And she walks right out of your life. OPPORTUNITY LOST. You kick yourself thinking, What the hell did I do wrong? She seemed excited to meet me for a date, I thought there would be instant “chemistry,” but there was none…

It’s rough out there for a single guy trying to meet a not-awful attractive girl. I know what you’re going through.

You are either…
Sick and tired of wasting your time trying to meet girls online or in the real world, who are astoundingly flaky and hard to get out on a date. You seem damned to flounder in the friend zone, where nobody wants to touch your dick.
Or
Actively dating, but the girls are so monotonously predictable in their shallowness, smartphone addiction, and their general lack of putting in an effort towards having some semblance of a new relationship.
Or
Disappointed by the shoddy quality of the options you have. The girls you could date are just not attractive or feminine enough to get you excited.

Whatever the case is for you, you’re growing cynical about women. The reward is just so minuscule for the effort you put in dating or trying to date women.

Jonathan and Gergana, they're a husband and wife
Whose advice on love is sound and advice is rife.
They've been together for half a decade or more,
And they've seen it all, from the good to the bad and the sore.

Their advice is always sound,
And never fails to cool
The ardor of the love-sick youth,
And make him see the truth.

But be warned, their advice can be a bit blunt,
So if you're easily offended, you might want to run.
But if you're looking for honest and straight-talking advice,
Then J&G are the ones to go to, no price.

In these webisodes, we dispense tips, tricks, and relationshackingtechniques for those longing for belonging and relationships that are sinking ships...

"My wife is getting fat! What the heck should I do...?" 💔 J&G Relationships Q&A #1

Barcelona is the Spanish city you probably hear the most about, but I’ll make the case here why you should go to Valencia instead.

First of all, Valencia is such a better value…

I spent about three weeks in Barcelona, and Valencia seems to have everything that Barcelona does at about half to a third of the cost. In Barcelona, a very simple flatshare in a kind of cool neighborhood costs 31 Euros a night, and a shitty hostel costs $22 a night, whereas in Valencia, I found that not awful private room flatshares via Airbnb cost $10-$15.

In general, the wifi in Barcelona is quite mediocre; the speed and reliability are so wanting that it negatively affected my productivity during the time I spent there. Disappointingly, there’s just a single real digital nomad-friendly cafe in Barcelona. In contrast, the wifi in Valencia is muy buen! At cafes, restaurants, hostels, and Airbnb apartments, I consistently found the +20MB up/down connection that I need to do work.

If you want to go shopping at a Prada store, Barcelona’s the city for you, but Valencia is overall a whole lot better value for nomadic seducers.

Liberal Epicenter vs Traditional Gender Roles Bastion

After years in the pickup Shangrila of Medellín, Colombia, I made a big move to Berlin, Germany, a city supposedly at the forefront of the decline of Western society. According to the manosphere, it’s the heart of the beast of European progressivism and feminism. I wrote about Berlin on Facebook:

“The liberal-hipster culture of the city is very politically correct but at the same time blase and apathetic. So I haven’t found many people I could really connect intellectually with… As far as the fairer sex; it’s a very diverse city with a ton of immigrants so you could definitely taste the rainbow here. However, Berlin is all about the "not giving a fuck" attitude, especially amongst young people, which means women are NOT very feminine in appearance or behavior.”

Your smartphone can, in the most insidious way, royally fuck with your relational tranquility.

It shouldn't be news to you that smartphones and social media have A LOT to do with breakups, heartbreak, divorce, domestic discord, and infidelity in the current year. From uncontesteddivorceny.net

According to a study conducted by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), more than 80% of divorce attorneys have reported a significant increase in the use of social media as evidence in divorce cases, particularly among Facebook users. The study also found that social media use was cited as a reason for divorce in one-third of all cases surveyed, especially among married couples.

James J. Sexton, a $600/hour New York divorce attorney wrote in his excellent book...

Facebook is the single greatest breeding ground ever for infidelity. Nothing that has come before—not swingers’ clubs and key parties, not chat rooms, not workplace temptations, not Ashley Madison, Tinder, or Grindr; no, not even porn—comes within a thousand miles.

If I had a dollar for every divorce caused by infidelity that started on Facebook, I would have … well, just about the same amount of money I have. Bless you, Mark Zuckerberg.

And I know what you're thinking...

I'm a disciplined, committed husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend. I wouldn't cheat on my partner because I love them and have the best of faithful intentions. I'm satisfied with my partner and the commitment I made to them is ultimately what keeps me loyal.

But this is naive, old-fashioned thinking and may very well NOT be enough.

For guys, having no car can really put a damper on your dating life, but only if you let it!

Like many young men, I once lost my driver’s license due to some small bad decisions and had to get rid of my car. Here’s how I kept my dating life active and fun...